She could feel it in her gut.
An influencer is speaking out about how her body physically “rejected” the man she was convinced would be her future husband — but who turned out to be just another toxic boyfriend.
Lyss Boss, host of the podcast Date Yourself Instead, is claiming that the stress of being with her ex-boyfriend made her seriously sick.
“He was my future husband,” Boss, 30, recounted to her fans in a clip posted to TikTok with 2.7 million views.
“I had a stomach ache every day, constant anxiety for no reason, bloated like crazy, and had to get an EKG scan for my heart because I was so stressed.”
“My body was rejecting the relationship,” the content creator added in the video, which has garnered 112,300 likes.
Many people in the comments said they could relate to Boss’ experience.
“‘My body rejecting the relationship’ hits my soul,” one person wrote.
“Same! With panic attacks, digestive issues, insomnia, nausea, palpitations, back pain. All gone when we got divorced!” another chimed in.
“Yes!! Constant anxiety, would wake up at 2-3 am. Felt super nervous and could never hold down any food. Broke up and it all went away,” someone shared.
“Oh wow this hits home I feel like my relationship was making me sick too,” one added.
The podcast host explained on a previous episode that she and her ex dated for a “very long time” and she thought he was her soulmate.
“We were on this high of life, just like super in love, and then it kind of all came crashing down really really fast,” she said. “As it started crashing down and as things started to get super rocky, I started to get these crazy chronic yeast infections.”
“I felt super sick. I always had stomach aches. I always just felt nauseous and bloated and fatigued. I just felt so weird,” she continued. “I couldn’t put my finger on it. I didn’t really know what was happening.”
Boss explained that her infections were so painful that she “could not walk” and she tried a diet change and medications, but that only provided temporarily relief.
“I started getting these stabbing heart pains in my chest. I felt like I was having a heart attack,” she remembered. “I swear to God. It was the craziest thing ever. My chest would tighten and I would have this like stabbing knife cutting through my chest — it felt like that.”
While it may seem a bit strange that a relationship with a person could make you physically ill, it’s actually quite common.
Dr. Michael Lam, an adrenal fatigue expert, explains on his website that toxic relationships can be forms of stressors, and all forms of stress, both physical or emotional, engages the NeuroEndoMetabolic Stress Response — the body’s global response to stress.
“Generally speaking, your body is built to handle acute bouts of stress. What it isn’t built to handle is chronic stress. And toxic relationships are a source of chronic stress,” he writes.
“Each stressful interaction in your toxic relationships will trigger cortisol production, and your adrenals will become exhausted after a while. This is how you end up getting Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome, even if you’re leading an otherwise healthy lifestyle.”
He explains that fatigue, weight gain, sleep problems, brain fog, anxiety, mild depression, dry skin, hair loss, loss of libido, PMS, infertility, estrogen dominance, lowered immunity, hypoglycemia, salt and sugar cravings, food and drug sensitivities, and heart palpitations are all symptoms of AFS.
Boss recalled on her podcast that all her symptoms went away once she ended the relationship.
“After months and months of having crazy, chronic health issues, when I broke up with this person, all of the health issues went away,” she said. “When you’re in toxic situations, and you’re really not with the right person, your body will f – – king speak to you. Your body will speak out.”
“If you’re not going to listen to your logic and not going to listen to your thoughts telling you to get out, your body’s going to try to tell you to get out physically. And I learned that the hard way.”